There are so many so called advisors and investors in the valley and yet I’ve met very few who listens first before flaunting their wisdom. How can someone share valuable insights and experience if they are not even willing to listen and understand the situation? I don’t respect ‘this’ type of advisors and their so called ‘advice’ is more like obnoxious opinions. So, for ‘this’ type of advisors, I only have 2 words for you!

4 days before this big milestone, I met with an angel investor who was interested to find out more about what I was doing. I was so proud of my production and was sure that my demo would blow him away. After all, 9 months of development and research has gone into it.

I gave a quick overview of my vision for the site and then proceeded with the demo. At the end of the demo, the response I received was “I like these 2 things you are doing but I don’t like the rest. That’s not enough to stand out from the crowd.”

My heart was immediately broken and I wanted to pack, run to my car and cry!

But I sat there and let him criticize my ‘baby’. I listened and fought really hard not to be defensive. Digesting the rush of brutal truth and unbiased feedback was so painful.

He believed in my idea and visions and thought they were “Victoria Secrets” good, however, how I’ve executed online, it was like Kmart quality. This statement intrigued me and I started to open my mouth, asked him why and how I could have executed it better.

It was supposed to be a brief coffee meeting but we chatted for 5 hours. It was hard to keep an open mind during that 5 hours but my curiosity kept me strong.

I left the meeting speechless and shaken. I got home and evaluated all the feedback and bashing. I could be a donkey, be stubborn and toss all the criticism into the garbage can but I decided to face the truth. Most of the constructive feedback was insightful and I started to question myself too.

Am I weak? Am I giving in?

I’m usually a logical and strong-minded (aka stubborn) person and I’ve made my fair share of bad decisions. After a thorough consideration, I made a difficult decision. I’ve decided to re-strategize and re-evaluate my site. I’ve decided not to launch the site on President’s Day 2009. It was a hard call, but I felt it in my heart that it was the right decision.

What’s I’ve Learned:
If you are asking for opinions and feedback, you better be brave and have an open mind to accept the brutal truth. Evaluate each feedback closely and then go with your heart.

Here are a few ways I size up a client:

1) Always ask for their budget range to make sure their numbers are attractive enough for me to make a decent profit margin.

2) When providing a proposal, always give the client a few options with different pricing models. 1st, you want to make sure the client feels like the KING and has an array of choices, and the choice they make or didn’t make may also show how serious they are as a client.

3) Always leave room for negotiations. 1st it shows that you treasure them as a client and you are willing to negotiate and also provides an idea on how serious or how easy it would be to work with this client in the long run. Client with an attitude or loves to low ball are usually unpleasant clients to work with.

4) Always ask for a small deposit/fee out front to ensure the commitments of the client. If the project requires assessment and build, you may want to collect a small fee for the assessment and then apply this fee to the building cost. This makes the client feels the assessment was done for free and at the same time, you know you’ll get a high-committed client!

I know the above pointers are more or less common sense. It’s always good for me to refer to them before meeting the client or before any serious negotiations. It keeps me in check else I might get too distracted by the clients at times.

So if you are RoR wannabe, this review may help:

1) Build Your Own Ruby on Rails Web Applications (Sitepoint)
Great beginners book to start with!

2) Agile Web Development with Rails (The Pragmatic Programmers)
A must have! I use it more as a Rails dictionary rather than an instructional learning tool. It’s also written by the guys who created Ruby on Rails!

3) RailsSpace – Building a Social Networking Website with Ruby on Rails (Addison-Wesley)
Very well written, easy to follow. Good teachings on how to write clean, uncluttered code.The chapter on Friendship feature is especially useful.

4) Practical Rails – Social Networking Sites (apress)
Yet another easy to follow book. The instructions on building a photo gallery was useful and provided good information on how to use plugins.

5) Rails Solution – Ruby on Rails Made Easy
It a complete waste of time! The code was sloppy and the resource provided on their website is not informative because the authors of this book claims that the code was bug-free hence supportive resource is not needed!

It is also important to purchase a rails book that provides instructions for the version of rails installed, else some lessons provided will not work and makes learning more difficult!

And when I braved the world to make one of the life changing decisions to file for divorce, I unexpectedly had to face pouring questions and opinions from friends and family. Everyone had an opinion even when I didn’t ask for any. Everyone had a story to share, thinking it would make me feel better. After a while, all these stories and opinions became noise! I had to learn to ignore and only listen to those who were sincerely, truly giving relevant advice.

So, how do I apply what I learned from my divorce? Starting a business is like having a baby, planning a journey that also affects your personal life. I might have failed in selecting the right life partner, but I’m more savvy now when selecting business partners. There were a few interested parties to co-found my business with me but I was really selective this time. I would ‘date’ them, discuss about our past, lives, goals and dreams. Sometimes, spending time together and engaging in conversations is the best way to get to know a person. Making money by joining forces wasn’t a good enough reason. During such conversations, I would wonder if I’m able and willing to ‘grow old’ with this potential business partner and ‘have a kid’ (grow a business) with this partner. It’s like selecting a spouse without the SEX!

The divorce has taught me that everyone has an opinion and it’s human nature to be judgmental. When I decided to start my business, everyone had to give me their 2 cents, their opinions and some can be very discouraging. Do people feel obliged to give their opinions even when not asked for? I’ve learned to choose what to listen to and who to listen to during my divorce and I apply the same skills in my business venture. People who truly knows how to give advice ask questions, they wouldn’t tell you what to do. By articulating my respond to their questions, it reinforces my vision, goal and may make me rethink some of my strategies. Starting a business is tough and if I had decided to listen to all the opinions and views, I would have not launched my business and ultimately be heart broken once again!

One life and it’s my life. Only I know what’s best for me. Be strong and listen only to your heart and maybe a handful of people/mentor. Best divorce lessons for me!

Silicon Valley Small Business Development Center

SCORE.org

SBA

I believe these wonderful organizations have contributed to the success of many businesses and have made the path of being an entrepreneur less lonely. Thanks to all these wonderful business veterans who volunteer! Thank you for keeping the entrepreneurial spirit alive!

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Fictitious Business Name
When a business goes by any name other than the owner’s real name the business is being operated under a “fictitious name” and must file a “Doing Business As” statement.
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Segmentation – know how the market is segmented

Target – who are my targeted audience

Position – how can I position myself so that I can differentiate my business from potential competitors? Some believe there are ’4P’s, some believe there are ’5P’s. I think there are ’6P’s – potentially 6 different ways to stand out:

People – customer service, consultants, employees, how do they all add value to the business?

Place – geographical location

Promotion - successful marketing campaigns, how to spread the word with the shortest amount of time and money?

Process – is my operational process different from competitors? is my operation process simple? is my operational cost cheaper than my competitors which results in lower-priced products?

Product – how is my product different from competitors?

Price – do I compete on price?

I believe these are important basic fundamentals and it contributed to the growth of my brain (better late than never)

I turned to the stuff I learned in business school. Honestly, I was skeptical in the beginning because some of these models were created so many years ago, were they still relevant in today’s business world?Did the founders of google analyze in such great lengths when they were creating their search engine?

Oh boy, I was so wrong. These models made me think, flooded my mind with questions! They forced me to do real research, get real data that enabled me to write a reasonably accurate business plan. With a deeper understanding, the competitive strategies that I concocted were more realistic too! They were like the light beaming from the lighthouse, guiding me to draw my own conclusion about my business idea without any emotions involved!

These are my favorite models:
1) Generic strategies
2) Growth/share matrix
3) Porter’s 5 forces
4) SWOT

1) Make it a dot-com
2) Keep it simple, short and easy to spell
3) Register company, brand names and trademarks as domain names
4) Register keywords and household words related to the company as domain names
5) Consider registering personal names
6) Register possible misspellings of the company domain name
7) Register .mobi
Avoid long hyphenated URLs, dashes and other symbols
9) Register domains for as long as possible, e.g. 10 years
10) Protect your domain name with other extensions, e.g. .net, .info, .biz etc

Source: Technology.inc.com
10 Tips for Choosing a Domain Name
Choosing the Perfect Domain Name